The Daily Hailey

It took me a while to figure out why today felt like a Sunday, but I think I’ve got it! We got the kids up, fed them, dressed them, and we rushed out the door to get to my parents house. Granted, if it had been Sunday, we would have been uncharacteristically late, but it was a crazy, choppy night, and it took a long time to get up. Either way, we headed to my parents to hang out with my mom for a couple of hours. Its so hard to see each other these days with the busy schedules we both keep up, so we arranged for a bike ride and lunch. Dekker biked the longest bike ride he’s ever done, and he did beautifully! He was really tiring out by the end, which made perfect sense, but he was pleased. Its SO much nicer to bike in a town that is paved, especially when he’s just learning.

We did lunch with my mom after our outside time, and ate very well, as always. The kids promptly trashed her living room moments before we needed to leave. She needed to get ready for her company, and we had lots to do over the course of the day. The kids are always sad to tidy toys and leave, but with the promise of Walmart and Costco to come, they were quick to tidy up and ask for help with their shoes. My mom helped them get ready, and walked us out to the van. She gave each Dekker and Laela a Cars fruit snack for the road, and passed some hugs and kisses around too. Rowan is in a big boy seat now…

… because he’s too tall for his bucket. Most baby seats go up to 22 lbs, and we knew he was 19 lbs, so he was approaching the weight limit, but suddenly we realized that he was just WAY too tall for it! We ordered his new seat recently, which turned out to be super convenient, as he weighed in at 22 lbs today!!! Thats a beefy 6 month old 🙂 I love it. (As a side note, Laela weighed in at 24 lbs. Unreal. And Dekker, 38 lbs. ) In case you were wondering, his seat is in there as tight as it could possibly be. I made sure.

We got to Walmart first with a special idea in mind. Now that Ro isn’t in a bucket anymore, and he is definitely not sitting up in a cart yet, and I don’t have a carrier, we weren’t sure how we would actually rock three kids in a grocery store! Walmart only has one seat in the cart itself, so Laela sits there, and Dekker stands on the end and rides, or he walks. But even if there are two spots to sit in the cart, Ro isn’t strong enough AT ALL for that. So we toyed with an idea, and it worked!!!!! It resulted in this…

Dekker LOVED pushing Rowan in this little umbrella stroller!! He did SO well, and honestly, it helped a lot! Once he really gets the hang of it, this could actually make it possible for me to take them all shopping on my own, just for this short time before Rowan can sit up. The only thing Dekker did that wasn’t ideal was he moved a bit slower than people in Costco tend to move. The few times I gently tried to encourage him to move faster, he’d say “If I go too fast, Ro might fall out. I’ll just go slow.” Hey, rather that than the alternative, right? Thankfully, practically all of the people we held up didn’t seem to be in a rush, and more so just seemed to think Dekker was the best thing since sliced bread. They all looked fondly at him and told him he was doing a great job. It was so sweet <3 I loved it, and thankfully, so did he! I mentioned to Brady that it was so relaxed for a Sunday. Turns out its Thursday. Who knew.

Post-Costco, we grabbed some coffees from Tims, and I chatted with my sister, Caitlin, on the drive home. I’ve had a kind of brutalish last week, and it was nice to be able to hash some of it out with her. God sure knew to let Brady have this week at home with me. Its been a huge help and support, but having my sisters and friends at the ready as well has been EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you, Caity, for the call.

Upon arriving home, we unloaded the van and brought everyone in. We began the race to do laundry and get organized. Our evening has consisted of packing, folding, hanging, and organizing. Kids are bathed and brushed and in bed, and Brady and I have been trying to get the bulk of our packing done tonight. We’re heading out to be with Bradys parents and siblings and their kids this weekend. It won’t be an exceptionally long visit (two days there, and two in the van :/ ) but I think its supposed to be kind of chilly and unpredictable, so we’re choosing to overpack and be as prepared as possible!

Now, its time for supper and a soak before bed. I’m sleepy, and hungry, and I want poutine, so I think thats the plan! Fries and gravy and cheese and maybe some of my secret sauce on the side. SO. READY. FOR. SUPPER.

Our day was beautifully low key. Brady was home, and we had breakfast in bed before getting the kids up. We made some plans, sort of, and took our time getting started with the day.

Once the kids were all fed, Brady took some paint outside and touched up the exterior paint around our front windows. Our realtor had mentioned a few things for us to do if we were looking for ways to improve the house, and some of them were repainting the window trim and the entrance deck. We won’t get to the deck this week, but at least some of the work has been done.

We opted to keep the kids up from their naps today, because Jerilee was coming for the evening, and we wanted the kids to fall asleep well, despite their excitement over her presence. It worked out, and after they ate their perogies and played with Auntie, it was bedtime, and they were ready. They tidied their toys, brushed their teeth, and went to bed pretty seamlessly. Rowan, on the other hand, wasn’t having anything. He wouldn’t eat, or stand, or lay down, or play, or anything. He wanted to sleep, but I really wanted him to eat first! He is my first baby who is pretty over having a bottle. I’m thinking I’ll be making formula in a sippy cup sooner than later, and jumping on the solid food bandwagon as well, because he DOES NOT like to drink and get all dozy. Its a huge pain. So he ate less than two ounces before we gave up and put him to sleep. He was down for about two hours before he woke up, just right ticked off, and STILL wouldn’t eat! You wouldn’t know by his 20 lbs body that he doesn’t like to eat. However, obviously he’s not wasting away.

Brady, Jerilee, and I watched some trashy tv and ate perogies and wings and cheesecake. It was a great evening 🙂 But I am now sleepy, and we have a good but big day ahead of us tomorrow!!! I’m so looking forward to it 🙂

Kim and I made plans to hang out this evening, so I picked her up shortly after 5:00 and we headed in for supper. I had no idea it was a thing, but we hit up Boston Pizza for pasta Tuesday. Since when??? Anyway, we each got some pasta and a drink, and Ellijah ate his little baby snacks and cooed and was SUPER well behaved. We each paid a nice little bill, thanks to the pasta special, and headed to grab some Starbucks before we ventured on to – you guessed it! – Value Village.

We went to the one on the far side of the city, just to mix it up a bit. We had a few things we were looking for, and admittedly, we didn’t get any of them. Neither of us went particularly crazy, but we got some clothes, she got some shoes, I got a super pretty Pyrex bowl, stuff like that. Ellijah, again, was SO good, but got a bit restless and stopped for a little snack while we were in the change rooms.

After a pretty good run around to try and locate the toy he chucked out of his car seat, we were able to get our stuff and ourselves back to the van. Our “quick stop for a few things” had become a two hour shop, and we closed Value Village tonight. We grabbed a couple of coffees on the way out, and had SUCH a nice drive home. We regularly talk about how fast our friendship came to be, but it has been such a blessing, and we have a wonderful time together, if I can be so bold as to speak for her as well.

Poor sleeping baby was in Rowans car seat, so he had to be hauled out of his comfy place to go inside :/ But he gave me a nice smile while I hugged his mommy goodnight. From there, I headed home, and was greeted by lots of great stories about how the evening went, and how fabulous my kids are. Lots of wins tonight for me. A great evening out for me, happy kids, happy husband. All is well! I hope your household was happy this evening too, Kim! If so, we should do this again sometime…

Remember that time you guys drove 45 minutes to the city without your wallet? Oh wait, that was actually me. Today. With a whole errand day planned.

Ok, so it wasn’t actually planned at all. I decided we had a few errands we could run, and I wanted to help Jerilee set up her classroom because SCHOOL STARTS TOMORROW!!! So I drove to the city, parked at Costco, grabbed a cart, and as I walked, I rooted in my purse for my Costco card, which I keep in my wallet, which I apparently kept at home.

I went back to my van and cried and sulked a bit. I called Brady and we couldn’t come up with anything. I finally called my mom and told her my tale of woes. She was immediately willing to help, and I drove to her for a quick visit. We spotted me some cash (which I will be paying back in full on Thursday when I see her!) and we looked at some of the pictures from our recent family gathering. Such fabulous memories 😀

Eventually, I had to keep moving, so I left and hit up a few places and ran a few errands. Be warned, parents. Don’t walk through the Superstore clothing section. Everything is cute. I repeat. EVERYTHING is cute. I walked out having bought only one article of clothing per child, and that was SERIOUS restraint!

I met Jerilee at her classroom around 5:15 ish, I think, and we got to work!! We cut out a bunch of letters and decorated each wall of her room with beautiful handmade things. Her room has so much life and color to it, and TONS of thought has been put into each detail. I loved being part of the assembly of it, with Jerilee and her mom. I definitely felt welcome and loved, which I needed after such a rough start to my afternoon.

Now, I’ve come home to Brady cooking me some supper, and a bubble bath. I have such fabulous people in my life.

We’ve been so bad at getting to church this summer, which isn’t unheard of, honestly. We have pretty much only gone when we’ve been up for leading music, and then every other weekend it seems, is busy, or we’re exhausted. We’re even out of town next weekend! But hey, we made it today.

I thoroughly enjoyed the service. We had a guest speaker in, and I found him to be incredibly prepared and organized. Even with two active kids in our bench (Rowan slept through church) I was able to follow his preaching and actually grasp the message. This is certainly rarely the case, as its really hard to concentrate on the speaker while wiping faces, shushing voices, helping the kids share toys, not color in the hymnal, and break up any brawls that threaten to start. But I could really keep up today. Dekker in particular was incredibly patient and well behaved, and quiet!! Laela was pretty ticked by the end of church, but she had been generously given a lollipop as well as a cupcake, so she sugar crashed, as one would expect. It was ok. She just wanted to be held and cuddled, which we are more than happy to oblige.

After church, we had lunch and then napped Laela and Rowan. Dekker was so well behaved very intentionally, in order to stay up rather than going down for a nap, so he was thrilled to sit at the table with us and play cards while everyone else napped. Once naps were over, we got everyones shoes on, and we went for a walk. We brought Dekker’ bike out so that he could show off his mad biking skills to my parents, and he did SO WELL on the pavement!! I’m sad he has to learn on such difficult roads out here, but I’m sure it’ll benefit him somehow in the future. We ducked in on Kim and her husband along the way, and then suddenly, the bike ride ended, much quicker than we bargained for. He was pretty sad to come inside, but it was time for supper anyway. He was adamant that he didn’t want supper, but when I offered to eat his muffins and fruit salad for him, he changed his tune. Both Dekker and Laela ate a ton, and then played really well while we visited a bit more. Soon, it was toy time, and then it was home.

Dekker fell asleep on the drive home, which is actually kind of the worst case scenario, so I started making big loud jokes about “Who’s sleeping?? Are YOU sleeping??” I woke Dekker up and he just laughed and laughed as I pointed around the van to see who was sleeping. He was wide awake for the rest of the drive, so I don’t think he slept too long at all.

Now we’re home, and they’re all down. I want a bath, and I reeeaaally want a snack but I’m not hungry. If I want to lose the rest of my pregnancy weight, I should try a bit harder to respect that difference. Whoops. Not tonight.

The news story was released today about what happened last night on the highway that backed traffic up until just before 2:00am. Apparently a girl was killed on the highway, just west of the bridge. She was walking actually ON the lanes, and trying to hail a passing vehicle, when she was hit by an SUV going full speed down the hill. She was fifteen. There are a lot of questions that we’ll likely never know the answers to, like what in the world she was doing out on the highway without a vehicle. Was she hitch hiking? Had she been fishing under the bridge? A party, maybe? Was she trying to get away from someone, and in desperation, was out on the highway trying to get help? We won’t know. That poor driver, tho. What could they have possibly done differently? No one expects a person to be on the highway, and going 120 km/h down a hill, there likely wasn’t much that could have been done. I can’t imagine being the driver, or even worse, being the mother of that young victim. Regardless of what she had been up to earlier, whether she was in trouble or not, this was tragic.

Hug your family and friends as much as you can.

Tonight’s post is coming to you through diction. I, Hailey, am driving in my van dictating this post to my typist, Brady, at home. this is definitely a new method for us but thanks to tonights event it is necessary. I spent the afternoon getting my legs waxed and my nails done and then met my friend Hailey for her hair appointment. We headed to her place afterwards and got all dolled up for a girls night out. We met up with a few of her friends and headed to a hall with the promise of fancy treats, drinks, people dressed to impress and good music. Upon arrival it looked quite a but more like a grade 8 graduation. We all had a good laugh and made the most of the bologna sandwiches, the ritz crackers, and questionable platter of marshmallows, We picked a table and took a bunch of selfies. We also abused my false eyelashes by sticking them the walls, to our eyebrows, to our upper lips, and many other places. It’s possible those things saved the party. After a few good dances I bowed out early. I was already yawning, and was ready to have some quiet time at home. Hailey’s friends walked me to my van to protect me from all the hooligans, which I appreciated. I found my way to a Tim Horton’s, picked up two coffees for the morning, and headed towards home as fast as I thought I could without getting pulled over. Sooooo much yawning. about 10 minutes from home I saw a long line of red lights. I assumed it was a line of vehicles but it was dark enough that I couldn’t place where they were. But I found out very quickly, as they were on the highway directly in front of me blocking me from my home stretch. I threw the van in park and called Brady. I was feeling really sleepy, so not only did I appreciate the pick me up but we also tried to make a game plan. After about 15 minutes of sitting still a man in a reflective jumpsuit approached my van and I hung up with Brady to have a word with him. After a very brief discussion with him I learned my options were limited and I turned the van around. I try not to put my exact location on the blog but I’m sure the majority of you know were I live. Tonight, shortly after 11 pm, I turned around just before the valley and headed back towards the city. I am now on my way to BLAINE LAKE, in an effort to take the world’s longest, most roundabout way back home. If I make it there before 1am I’ll be thrilled. Not only thrilled, but also asleep. Unfortunately, my fatigue hasn’t lifted and I’m struggling to stay awake at the wheel. This dictation style blog is the last thing i have keeping me awake. I have no snacks in the van and I’m not sacrificing tomorrow’s coffee. This said I am sacrificing my husband’s chance at sleep before I get home. Sorry Honey. (It’s ok sweets.)

So this evening definitely didn’t play out how I expected, but it’s definitely kept me on my toes. Hopefully, I stay awake long enough to see the end of it. I’ve never wanted my bed so badly…

Get home safe tonight everyone.

I got my hair redone today. I knew I wanted to change it but I wasn’t sure how. This was probably the first time in a long time that I’ve booked the appointment before actually knowing my plan. A couple of days back, after much Pinterest perusing (Pinterusing?) I found the style I wanted!!! Fun surprise, though. I need to grow my hair out a bit to make it work! So I knew what I had going on, and that wasn’t working, and I knew what I wanted to end up with, but thats still a decent ways off. So I went in to my hair girl with a few pictures and just hoped for the best.

So I have to say that I actually totally love this cut!! I’m always nervous when I consider growing my hair out a bit, because I HATE the in betweener haircut. Always. But I’m thinking this could be more survivable! Yes, I will probably look like a shaggy dog in two months when I go in again, but I have a rockstar of a hair girl!! Carlinna is the person to go to for all of your hair needs and wants. While I have no idea what my next inevitable in betweener haircut will look like, I know she’ll be able to leave me looking pretty fabulous, if I do say so myself! And maybe after that one, I’ll actually be closer to where I need to be 🙂 I’m looking forward to it.

*** Side note for the makeup people! This is the nudiest nudey-nude lip I’ve ever rocked, and I have to say, I loved it!!! Definitely a really different direction than I usually take, but it makes sense when I have more on my eyes, I think. Anyway, yay for new things today!!!

Dekker had his eye surgery about a year and a half ago. I shouldn’t need to give a recap, because those images are burned in my mind, but in case they aren’t burned in yours the same way, here’s about how surgery day looked:

Over the last 1.5 years, Dekker has gone through all of the emotions when it comes to his eye doctor. He used to tremble when we entered the hospital. Then it was ok to the at the hospital, but he’d fight the testing hard. He’d scream and struggle to leave the exam room. I’m pretty sure we had never tried to bribe him before all of that began. In the last few appointments, he’s complied better. He’s still put up a pretty sizeable fuss for the first five minutes of his appointments, but then he does his thing and cooperates for the most part.

Today was a whole new spectrum. I told him in the morning that we were going to see Dr. Rubab and he responded “Ummm, actually, I can see really fine.” I told him its just good to check and make sure he is seeing the best he can. He accepted that and was anticipating the outing. When we got there, he came to the desk to check in with me, and didn’t cower when the receptionist spoke to him. He even let her put his hospital bracelet on for the first time! We’ve always had to do it, and even then, we’ve had to put it on his ankle because he was fighting so hard. This was much smoother. We were pretty early, but we actually got called into orthoptics early, which was awesome! The man called Dekker by name and for the first time ever, Dekker didn’t panic. He asked to sit with Brady, and then he seemed comfortable. He even let the orthoptist patch over each eye individually, and take his glasses off. Both of those things caused HUGE fits of screaming and fear in the past.

The one little detail that Dekker did not cooperate on was all of the testing. My gosh, it was SO frustrating!! I loved seeing him so comfortable and positive, but his jokes are always just him giving the wrong answer, and that isn’t really ideal at the doctor. I kept reminding myself that these people work with kids, and my kid being happy and funny, even though its not great, isn’t the end of the world. Also, Dekker is likely not the first kid who has pulled this kind of stunt. So I apologized, and he worked around Dekker’s antics, and managed to get basic information.

After his initial testing in orthoptics, I had a chat with him about how jokes are great, but not really a good idea at the doctors office. I told him that, if the doctor didn’t know he was making jokes, she might think he was sick! He seemed receptive, so we recapped the rules a little bit and then played while we waited.

When we did get in with Dr. Rubab, Dekker pulled the same stunt. I tried to remind him a few times that it wasn’t a good time for jokes, and he needed to just say the right answer. And he just WOULDN’T!! Thankfully, Dr Rubab had lots of different activities to try and get the information from him. Dekker was still fighting the power a bit, and I could tell Dr Rubab’s mind was ticking. She finally said “You don’t really want to do this today, do you? We can just do drops if thats easier for you, but I don’t really want to do drops today…” and then she trailed off a bit and pulled out some more things for him to look at. Things went faster after that! Once all his tests were done, she offered him a sticker, and he sort of turned his nose up at them. She offered him all of the different kinds she had, and we actually shared a laugh about her not knowing about kids characters anymore, since her kids are teens. It felt normal, which I love.

So our update on Dekker is as follows. He is using both eyes together, so he is no longer favoring one eye. Also, it appears that his vision is the same in both eyes. They couldn’t get a very accurate reading on how his vision actually is, because he wouldn’t answer the questions properly, but he had his prescription updated just a few months back, so she wasn’t too worried. Also, the big win is that Dekker’s eyes have no crossing, whether his glasses are on or off.

I’m happy that he’s in the shape he’s in today.

See you in eight months, Dr Rubab!!

I love being busy. Today was a day where I had day and evening plans. Not too long ago, I would have found that overwhelming, but I’m solidly enjoying it right now!

Despite their hateful vehicle fighting the power, Kim brought her kids out for the day! Dekker was SO much more comfortable with her boys after all of their playtime together at his birthday party, which was so nice to see. Our poor middle kids, tho. The struggle was real. I eventually ended up napping Laela to try and give everyone a break from her. She was so on edge, and would scream if anyone moved or looked at her. I lay her in bed and she didn’t move for over two hours. All things considered, though, it was a fabulous visit, as it always is. We talked more about our marriages and friendships and pasts, which are always interesting and eye opening topics. Its always sad to see them go. Dekker even hugged their baby goodbye.

Once they were on the road, I got Laela up from her nap and Rowan soon after. The kids played downstairs while I slapped on a tiny bit of makeup and tried to fix my hair. I can’t WAIT for my hair appointment later this week, my gosh, I’m so messy over here. But anyway, they played and I got ready a bit. I pretty much high fived Brady in the entrance and I drove to the city. My plan was to pick up some noodle bowls for the two of us, and then head over to get some of her classroom set up. Turns out school is starting soon!! As I drove into the city, I tried a number of times to call the restaurant. It would be busy for a few minutes, and then when I would finally get through, it would ring and ring. I’d let it right up to 20 times before I’d get ticked enough and hang up. And then it would be busy again!! I was pretty worked up, wondering if somehow, I’d been blocked, or something that obviously made me a victim. I called on and off for probably 15 minutes before I entered the city, then gave up, and figured I’d just have to order in person at the restaurant. But for some reason, it was taking FOREVER to get there! Traffic was inching along. And it was then that I looked waaay ahead and noticed that a very main intersection was down to a four-way stop. No lights. So it took well over twice as long to get to the restaurant as it should have, thanks to these lights being out. I finally made it to the restaurant in time to learn that it was actually not just that intersection. Everyone in that chunk of the city was without power.

So I threw in the towel completely, texted Jerilee, and said I was coming and I’d grab some Little Caesars pizza on the drive over. She accepted, and I was there in decent-ish time. We lurked in her classroom for a bit, and planned out what would go where. Then, we hung a large hoopy ribbony chandeliery thing from the ceiling. Correction: I hung it. Because I’m taller. Lame. After that, we drove to Michaels and found a few more things that she needed to decorate with. I bought a couple of little things too, because its Michaels, and I had to. Its the law.

Unfortunately, Jerilee is super sick with a hacking cold, and she was pretty finished by the end of our trip, so I took her home and then took myself home as well.

I feel pretty sleepy, but in a good way. My feet feel like they’ve worked a bit today, and I’m nice and tired rather than dragging and exhausted. Just feeling good and nice and sleepy. I like it.