The Daily Hailey

It was a pretty precious day today 💜 We are fortunate to be well connected with some dear friends of the birth mom of one of our children. Did you follow that lineup? One of our kids – their mom – her friends. Probably the closest to family that she has anywhere nearby. We spent the morning together!

Our entire family.
One of these friends’ entire family.
And the other friend whose family couldn’t join this time.
As well as our babe’s sibling.

One friend hosted at her place. They welcomed us with open arms. All ten of us. They made a ramp so Brady could come into the house. Made yummy coffee. Took in ALL the outerwear and skates in. They just let us be part of them for the morning.

There was SO much to catch up on, and I think we covered just about every base. Meanwhile, the kids trashed the basement, and skated in the backyard for a couple of hours. We even fit in a FaceTime date with some more siblings that live a bit further away 💜 It may have been a short visit, but it was FULL.

Fostering is way more than just making room in your home for another person. Its more than making room in your family for another person! Its also making room in your life for their family! Its more work. For sure. But I feel SO incredibly blessed to know these people that are ONLY in our lives because of this relationship we’ve built through our love for this particular child. It is a gift to everyone involved. Not just an “extra” for the child in our care, but all of us.

A beautiful morning on the perfect day for it 💜

It was SUCH a huge weekend, I’m going to call it a whewkend!

The ministry foot the bill for our entire family to go to Yorkton for a night so one of our babies could visit a family member. I have to say, as much of an undertaking that it was, it was SO FUN. We pulled the kids out of school for the afternoon, and Brady took half of the day off as a holiday. We were packed and on the road by 2pm, which isn’t exactly early but felt better at least. We drove and listened to good music. When we arrived at our hotel, I checked us in and found our rooms while Brady ordered pizza from the van so that we could eat pretty much as soon as we had unpacked.

I requested two adjoining rooms, which is how our family can hotel the odd time that it happens. We leave the doors between the rooms propped open, and the five kids take one room while Brady and I take the babies in the other. Its a great system!

But first, before any talk of sleeping, we ate a ton of pizza and pringles, threw on swim stuff, and hit the pool.

It was a rowdy couple of hours, but a VERY happy time. The waterslide was fast and splashy. The hot tub was nice and hot. The cold pool was also pretty warm. Every one of the five older kids could touch in almost every spot in the pool, but it was still nice and deep on them. Unfortunately, the lifeguard was a stickler and wouldn’t let the big kids take the babies down the slide, which sucked because he seriously just sat there with ear buds in, staring at his phone. But they each got one slide down before he stopped us. But they were still happy to float around and watch the action. You better believe everyone in that pool had a very cute cheering section, whooping “WOAH! GOOD JOB!” as soon as the slider made it to the bottom.

Brady cannot swim (surprise! Lol!) but he was the designated photographer, which I was SO grateful for.

We got back to our rooms after 9pm, and everyone tucked into their spot.

Laela and Wavy shared a queen bed.

Rowan opted for a camper mattress on the floor since he doesn’t like to share his space too much.

Dekker asked to sleep in our room and take his chances with the babies.

So Solly ended up with his own bed, too!

Everyone was in bed around 9:30, and while I made the rounds, Solly asked if they could stay up and talk late into the night. I said of course they could chat, but not to get too rowdy since it was pretty late and everyone was good and tired already. And let me tell you – not a peep out of that room 🤣

Our room didn’t do so hot. LD woke up and refused to go back to sleep. SUCH a sad little cry. Some shushing over the din of the noise machine did seem to help a little bit, but the questions remained as LD started listing the names of the kids, essentially asking where everyone was. Unfamiliar territory. It makes sense. But I heard the little voice start calling “Dekker? Dekker?!” and I watched the silhouette of Dekker as he got up, went over to the playpen, and reassured LD with a snuggly hug. It was SO endearing.

Buuuuut it didn’t take and I ended up sleeping on the floor next to aforementioned baby, who would doze for a few minutes before sitting up, stuffing their face into the mesh, and sobbing until I booped noses, before laying back down for the next few minutes. It was a rough cycle.

There was more to it all. We scrambled to get out the door. Couldn’t get a late checkout, so we managed some disappointment of only getting one swim in. Took a while to find where this family member was. Were late for that. Finally hit the road. Babies be poopin’ at the wrong times. Sold one Tim’s out of bagels completely. Oh and then we almost blew a tire and ended up stranded for another night! 😅 The kids were SO bummed when the lovely guys at the tire shop fixed us up so well.

It was a really, really full weekend. There was chaos, and some struggle, but every kid had a BLAST and they ALL said it was so fun and they hope we get to do it again, even if its short and just for a visit like this last time. Even if its somewhere mundane like Yorkton. These are the memories they’ll hold 💜 I love that.

There is SO much to tell about this weekend and I am SPENT and not up for it at ALL right now 🤣 But here is what I can tell you.

There is one one else I would rather road trip with,

rather spend a night in a hotel with eight children with,

rather wrangle them all at a pool with,

rather pack, unpack, repack, and load up with,

experience all the firsts with,

meet birth parents with,

choose music with,

eat burgers with,

have car trouble with,

disappoint the kids with,

get home late with,

and climb into bed at the end of the day with,

than you 💜

What a wild weekend! 😅 I am SO grateful to have spent it with you 💜

Let’s recap some of our gooders 🤣

Our years together have been LARGE and OUT of control 🤣 But there has been NO bailing. It would’ve been easier to give up on our family, for sure, but the fact that she has stuck it out speaks volumes. We are NOT easy. I am not easy. But we have a trust that is unbreakable.

I have said it for years – we are very different people. Our lives couldn’t be more different. But our hearts are the same 💜

Lots of things are really serious, but lots aren’t. We have a LOT of fun.

We made a little time for a galentine’s day coffee and presents date 💜 She won. For sure.

I could never even come close to such a gift 💜💜💜 Thank you, dear girl. I’m floored.

We will take a little breather over an early lunch to have some Stranger Things waffles and Love is Blind. We both have VERY busy weekends ahead, so now is the time to get some bestie moments in!

Relationships with spouses are really cool. But DO NOT forget your close friends!! Doesn’t have to be on Valentine’s or Galentine’s. But just, don’t forget! Its fun to make a little fuss once in a while 😘

I love you, beautiful Cherice. My BEST friend 💜💚🧡 Have a great night away!! I miss you alreadyyyyy!!!

Happy Galentine’s Day, Chairiss 😘

I have this oddly vivid memory from when I was still in a crib. I don’t know if my mom will remember it, but I’m sure I’ll know soon 😂

I remember standing in my crib, preparing to go down for a nap. My mom had stepped out of the room and when she came back, I handed her a gross long booger. As the fairly unflappable mom she was, she took it from me and walked away to dispose of it elsewhere.

When she came back, I remember handing her yet another very gross booger. Even as a toddler, I could see a less impressed look on her face. I cannot blame her in the slightest, hahaha!

Today, as I worked on things, I heard Spoons say “booga.” I heard the padded footsteps as Spoons approached me, repeatedly stating the same word. “Booga! Booga! Mommy BOOGA! Spoons stood, head cocked in an effort to allow me to examine the aforementioned booga that was hanging unceremoniously out of their nose. As I scooped it from Spoons’ face, I giggled, thinking this must’ve been how my mom felt, lol!

Aaaaand naturally, not to be outdone, LD came tromping through the house, shrieking about their own boogas.

It was a hilarious problem to have. One that required much handwashing, and gave me some funny, weird, sticky, warm fuzzies. Feels like something I won’t forget.

This is Laela.👋 Remember last Saturday? When it was Mom and Dad’s anniversary?🎈 I told you about the bouquet of balloons, right? How they had cards attached to them?

Well they have opened some, and they really liked them.😁 (we worked really hard on them.) So here are some of them.

Let’s go top to bottom, left to right. Wavy made the first one, Dekker made the second, Grandma made the next, then me. (I spelled it wrong😬) But they don’t care. (I hope.🤞)

Here Dad is, holding today’s!😁 Today’s was made by Solly. I could tell that he was really proud of it; as we all are. Hope you feel really special Mom and Dad!😄💜

Rowan delivered his papers today. Since Christmas is over, the flyers have gotten smaller, and things move quicker, which he likes. So today, when we sat down at the table, and Rowan wasn’t there, I realized he hadn’t come home yet! I wondered if maybe they were larger this week for some reason, and therefore taking a bit longer, where he can’t carry as many at once. But it was right as we were sitting down to pray that he emerged from the hallway, cheeks pink, smile big.

“Sorry I’m late, my friend and I got to talking.”

Rowan has made friends with an elderly lady along his route. Based on his stories, she is a pretty lonely lady, and I can attest that Rowan is great to talk to. So she has befriended him! She will talk to him at length, and he is so happy to stand and visit with her for as long as she wants to talk.

Today, she offered him a drink. He brought home a root beer. She told him about her late husband. Introduced him to her puppy. Told him stories from the past. How her kids came and cleaned her entire house with Qtips 🤣 Meanwhile, Rowan told her about Brady’s cancer. Our family. Some of our things, but mostly, he lets her talk. And I LOVE that.

I also LOVE this. He confessed to me that this lovely old lady actually thinks he’s a girl 🤣 He doesn’t have the heart to correct her, and he takes it in stride. I think thats amazing.

Anyway. Now he knows her birthday, so he plans to drop a card off around that date. I suggested a little treat, but when he started listing her allergies off, we decided a note might be safer 🤣

Goodness. I know it seems small. But the value it gives to children when adults put into them is so precious. Get to know your paper boy or girl. Its super sweet.

It was a low key day. Which was so welcomed after this last week of crazy.

It was also helpful because the babies were less than cooperative today, so if there were things I really had to get done, it would’ve been much harder.

I tried to be productive in the morning, and it just wasn’t going to happen, so I resigned to the living room floor, where we played, read books, and took it super duper easy.

For such a hands on morning, naps were short, and the afternoon was a similar level of whiny. That being said, I had willing hands helping in the kitchen. Simple supper, but it was yummy and I really enjoyed cooking with the kids.

A whiny, under napped baby tends to go to bed a little early, and more willingly. So, they did that, and the first round of kids went down not too far after the babes.

The evening wrapped smoothly. The last three chatted together while they gathered up some night snacks. Dishes sort of fell by the wayside today, and the boys jumped in to help Laela finish up washing the pots and such, which is not always the case. It was VERY warm to witness. I LOVED it.

Bigs are up, reading quietly in the living room. The dishwasher is running. Everything is super low pressure. I’m going to crochet a little bit (assuming Munchie Mix stays down nicely) and then call it early. Our newfound routine of 5am milk is not something my body or nervous system appreciates.

Our lovely Laela asked to post yesterday, so post she did, and it was very sweet 💜 She’s a cutie.

But I wanted to post a little something something myself, also.

Our anniversary was heavily overshadowed by a kid needing to go to the city for a visit. We’ve never done weekend visits before. And of all days. But! Duty calls, and thats ok! We loaded everyone up and drove in. Brady made coffee for the drive, and we listened to good music.

He really is, you know.

This is a good man 💜

I took our babe into the visit and Brady waited out with the rest of the kids. Then, once babe was effectively dropped off, he dropped me off to do some thrifting at VV on my own, and he took the kids to drop off a STACK of recycling at the depot by Lawson mall. Those giant Costco flat boxes will just NEVER fit in my bin. They also went and put gas in the van, and went through the car wash.

Meanwhile, I bought some puzzles. Some gifts. Shoes for Wavy for spring. Very few things. But I breathed a little. It was nice.

We all went home after the visit, and my mom took the big kids during nap time so Brady and I could just spend time. Truthfully, we just watched our show and stared. It was SUCH a huge week. But I wouldn’t have chosen to spend that time with anyone else.

Goodness, boy. These have been huge days. I love you so terribly much.

Thank you Lord for EVERY year I get the privilege of spending with this man 💜

Hi, Laela here!😁 My parents have been married for 17 years!

When Mom was in the hospital this week, us kids went to Grandma’s house after school. She reads us adventure chapter books.😍 So we went to her house so Dad could stay at work. When at Grandma’s house, we read, but we also planned for Mom and Dad’s anniversary. We made cards. Then Grandma was going to make a giant heart shaped cookie with candy all over it after we left, but Dad probably couldn’t eat that. Cancer makes his mouth hurt. So when she came over today to drop them off, she had rolled the cards up, and taped them to a bouquet of balloons. She said Mom and Dad could open one per day. Then she put all the candy (that was supposed to be on the cookie) all in a bag to snack on at night.

I’m gonna admit, I kinda forgot it was their anniversary.😬 So in the morning, I whipped up a quick card. To bad Mom looked in our junk drawer.☹️

Well, I know she doesn’t mind!😉 Happy anniversary Mom and Dad!😁