I promise, my posts will eventually stray from school updates, but this is just where we are right now.
This morning, my mom came over once again, to watch the littler littles, and I took Dekker to school. The big difference from his first day is that his whole class came today. His first day was just half of his class, to make the transition a bit easier. Today, there were twice as many kids. So immediately upon entering the boot room, Dekker was really put off by the amount of kids in there. He couldn’t find a spot on the floor to sit to take his shoes off. Did not like that. I tried to just remind him to relax, that this wasn’t a problem at all, and that we weren’t in a rush. We made it out of the boot room alive and headed to the classroom.
We walked with a couple of other kids and their moms. I met another mom, who tried to talk to Dekker, and he just looked away and ignored her. She was super understanding of him, and wasn’t at all put off by his standoffishness. I’m realizing more and more that I am not the only parent with a nervous kid. We got into the classroom, made our way to the coat area, and got him all unpacked. We went and found his shoes, and he plunked down to put them on. He was definitely still put off by the amount of kids walking so close to him to get their shoes or to get to the coats. But he handled it. The moment his shoes were on, he was up and searching for my hand to hold. So I held his hand, and he walked me over to the table where he was supposed to sit. He kind of tried to get into his chair without pulling it out. He got super huffy about it, and I whispered “just relax” and I pulled it out for him. And he relaxed. He let go of my hand and stared straight ahead. I asked if he was ok, and he didn’t answer. I told him I loved him, and he didn’t answer. Finally, I kissed his head, and whispered to him to have a good day. And I left!
A friend texted a little while later, and said she had left just a few minutes behind me, and that Dekker had been fine. No tears! So I am calling today a great success!! He was definitely hesitant about all of the people, but he didn’t complain, or cry, or struggle. I think I can explain it by saying that he was still just as uncomfortable as he was yesterday, but he knew what to expect. Dekker is BRAVE. But he is so very cautious. Now that he knows whats coming, he can be courageous, and face it, even if its hard. I am SO proud of that! I wish I was as courageous as he is!
My day was filled with a lovely visit with my friend, Candace, who I know from high school. She took my maternity photos, and some family/baby pictures of Solly, and we just kind of reconnected! She and her little girl came for a few hours, and it was really nice! The kids played beautifully together, and I think our visit was really nice too. I hope we have them over again really soon.
I went to school a little early, and waited outside the kindergarten room for the bell to ring. When it did ring, the kids began to filter out, and I looked for Dekker. He was towards the back of the group, not super eager or concerned. When I did spot him, he lit up and reached for me. Being that kids were all around us, I scooped him up, took a few steps, and crouched down so I could give him a big hug. He hugged me back so tight! I asked how his day was, and got a whole hearted “It was GREAT!” My mama heart was so warm and fuzzy, haha! I asked him what he had done that day, and he just said “I’ll tell you when we get home.” I tried to coax some info out of him on the walk to the van, and on the drive. “I’ll tell you all about it, mommy. At home.” He is such a little punk!
And of course, I still know nothing about today! He’s so funny! I’m sure I’ll know more as the days go by, but I think he’s still processing, so I’m letting it slide. For now 😉 I am just SO happy with his response to today. I hope it keeps getting better and better! Its sure looking like it will.