The Daily Hailey

I really want to thank my readers recently, just for being my readers. Since I’ve talked about Dekkers eyes, I have gotten considerably more views on the posts based on him, and I take that as people having concern for our family, and even loving my son. So thank you so very much for being interested in how my son is doing.

On the topic of Dekker, today started out really rough for him. He woke up nice and late but was pretty ticked as soon as he got up. He didn’t eat very much and did a LOT of screaming. I finally pulled him out of his chair and took him back to his room to have a talk with him. I sat down on the floor and placed him standing in front of me. I held his face to make him look into my eyes while we talked, and he could not focus on me. He burst out crying and reached for a hug. No more screaming for him. Just a big, long cry. I get it. He is totally frustrated with his eyes and not being able to see well. He’s finding totally normal routine things extra overwhelming, and it breaks my heart. So I let him have his safe, away from everyone else, cry. No reprimand, no big fight, just a big cry. When he calmed down, I just reminded him that his tantrums made it really hard for mommy and daddy to know what he wanted, and that we should all try a little harder to communicate.

We came back out and had a banana, but playing toys didn’t last long either. He was just finished. He went down for a nap sooner than later, as did we all. Dekker barely slept at all, but he came out of his crib totally refreshed and obviously feeling better. He ate a monstrous lunch. The rest of the day went quite a bit smoother. It was a very quiet day inside, rainy outside. Dekker fought his supper pretty hard as well. He had a little, but not too much at all. More than he did at breakfast. While every bit of me wanted to keep that boy in his high chair until he ate more, I tried to remember that we all have days where we’re not super hungry. If his appetite stays this way too long past getting his glasses, then we’ll take him in and see what we should do. But I also feel like this is one way I can show him compassion, and recognize that he’s just not feeling great, and I don’t eat well when I’m feeling sick or bothered either. We’ll just do a lot more smoothies and easy food for a while. I love him, and I really want him to feel better, but I don’t want to let my parenting slide either. Really hard boundary to find.

Thanks again, everyone, for your care, your Facebook messages, and your phone calls. We appreciate the concern and the prayers. Please don’t hesitate to keep them all coming!